Because men need space to heal, reflect, and grow, too.
Music has always been a source of healing—a way to process emotions, find clarity, and step back into your power. But let’s be real: men don’t always get the same permission to express what’s on their hearts. The pressure to be strong, to hold it all together, to “man up”—it’s heavy.
This playlist is for the fellas who are on a journey of growth, healing, and self-worth. Whether you’re reflecting on the past, releasing what no longer serves you, or stepping into your highest self, let these songs be the soundtrack to your transformation.
The Playlist Breakdown Self-Awareness & Reflection – Because healing starts with looking inward.
These tracks are for those late-night drives, journal entries, or quiet moments when you need to check in with yourself.
The Heart Part 5 – Kendrick Lamar
Love Yourz – J. Cole
Heaven’s EP – J. Cole
Stay – Mac Miller
Letting Go & Moving Forward – Processing pain and releasing what holds you back.
Pain is part of growth, but holding onto it too long keeps you stuck. These songs help you reflect, release, and move forward.
Lost One – Jay-Z
Blessings – Big Sean ft. Drake & Kanye West
Good News – Mac Miller
Lord Knows – Drake ft. Rick Ross
The Vent – Big K.R.I.T.
Confidence & Boss Energy – Walking in your power unapologetically.
This is your reminder that you are that guy. These tracks will hype you up, get you back on your game, and push you toward your goals.
Dedication – Nipsey Hussle ft. Kendrick Lamar
Ambition – Wale ft. Meek Mill & Rick Ross
We Gon’ Make It – Jadakiss & Styles
Love & Vulnerability – Because real strength is in knowing how to love fully.
Vulnerability is a superpower. Whether you’re reflecting on love, heartbreak, or deep connections, these songs remind you that real men feel too.
Prototype – Outkast
Come Through and Chill – Miguel ft. J. Cole
You & Me – Gunna ft. Chloe Bailey
Ask of You – Raphael Saadiq
Purpose & Motivation – Pushing forward, building legacy, and staying grounded.
These tracks remind you to stay focused, stay strong, and keep going.
Alright – Kendrick Lamar
HiiiPower – Kendrick Lamar
Power Trip – J. Cole ft. Miguel
Why This Playlist?
Because healing doesn’t mean weakness.
Because self-worth isn’t about ego—it’s about knowing your value.
Because growth is the real flex.
Let this be a reminder that you’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to heal. You’re allowed to take up space—not just as a provider, but as a human who deserves peace, clarity, and love.
What song on this playlist speaks to you the most? Drop it in the comments!
Sometimes, healing doesn’t happen in silence—it happens in the rhythm, the lyrics, the moments when a song feels like it was written just for you. Whether you’re working through heartbreak, learning to love yourself again, or simply needing a reminder of your power, music has a way of speaking the words we can’t always say.
That’s why I created this Healing & Self-Love Playlist, a journey through self-reflection, release, empowerment, and peace. Let this be the soundtrack to your growth, your glow-up, and your most powerful version of self-love.
The Healing & Self-Love Playlist (Structured for Your Journey)
Reflect & Acknowledge the Feelings
Mirror – Kendrick Lamar
Lost & Found – Jorja Smith
Self Care – Mac Miller
Drew Barrymore – SZA
Release & Let Go
Bag Lady – Erykah Badu
Umi Says – Mos Def
The Light – Common
Love Yourz – J. Cole
Rebuild & Empower Yourself
Flawless (Remix) – Beyoncé ft. Nicki Minaj
Crown – Chika
Golden – Jill Scott
Be Okay – Kehlani
Find Peace & Gratitude
Good Days – SZA
Shine – Victoria Monét
Go Gina – SZA
Forever Mine – Andra Day
Move Forward with Confidence
Alright – Kendrick Lamar
Rise Up – Andra Day
Feeling Good – Nina Simone
How to Use This Playlist in Your Life
Morning Motivation: Start your day with tracks from the empowerment section. Journaling & Reflection: Write down what emotions come up when listening to the introspective songs. Healing Moments: Play the release & gratitude sections while meditating or taking a solo walk. Vibe & Drive: Let the closing songs remind you that you’re always moving forward.
It’s time to guard my ears and my eye gates
So much information swirling around that it’s too much to fit on my plate
So many dating rules
What’s truth, what’s a lie?
And for me, being a single mom,
Do the same rules apply?
There’s so much advice about why I shouldn’t date a single dad
So many opinions about how many kids I have
When is enough enough?
Some days I feel like staying to myself because some days this shit gets tough
I’m just trying to be a good mom
But being accused of putting my children first
And if I decide to neglect them, then I’d be seen as the worst
To me, it’s ebb and flow
Balancing love for them, love for me, so it all can grow
I’m tired of the judgment, the whispers, the stare
Like I can’t want companionship and still deeply care
They say dating a single parent is too much to bear
That our lives are too messy, that we come with too much wear
That my kids will resent it, or I’ll be hard to please
As if love’s only simple when it comes with ease
But I want a mate who sees my kids as his own
Where love isn’t divided but deeply grown
I’ll love his children, he’ll love mine
Together we’ll build something steady, something divine
It’s not a competition, but a balance, a team
A family built on respect, love, and a shared dream
To move as one, no room for divide
Just a bond that’s solid, with love as our guide
For all the myths, the doubts, the things people say
I’ll choose to believe we’ll find our way
I’ll guard my heart, but I won’t close the door
Because love like this? It’s worth waiting for
What everyone sees on the outside is a man who’s trying
But what’s happening on the inside is that he feels like he’s dying
Or wishing that God will take the pain away
And all folks ever tell him is that he needs to have faith and pray
But they don’t see that he’s more and more checked out
Unable to see the light
And filled with doubts
He’s losing everything that he loves
He chooses to engage in physical and mental battles
Instead of removing the gloves
He ain’t really fighting me
The battle is within
But where can he be safe?
No therapist
No savior
No confidant
No friends
So instead, he becomes one with the green
Sometimes 2 to 3 times a day
That’s the only thing to keep the chaos at bay
Calm enough to eat and find rest
Just to wake up hours later trying to do his best
But it’s not just the weed that pulls him away
Some find their escape in alcohol’s embrace
Drowning their doubts with every sip
Hoping the numbness will quiet the grip
That fear and failure have on their soul
But every bottle emptied takes its toll
Others choose to sleep, to slip into dreams
Where the world isn’t as heavy, or so it seems
They close their eyes and shut it all down
But they wake up still wearing the same old frown
The weight hasn’t lifted; the pain remains
It’s just delayed by a few hours of escape from the strain
So how does the cycle end?
What can break through this dark spell?
He has to dig deep within
Or forever live in mental hell
Sometimes it’s easier to run to the bandaid
than to take the time to properly care for the wound
Unfortunately, Bandaids don’t heal
I’m hoping that you’ll wake up and realize that soon
The journey through healing doesn’t always feel good
but if you put in the work
You’ll feel much freer than you ever thought you would
It takes a whole lot more than hope
You can be aware and take baby steps
or settle for the quick high you use to cope
what’s your drug of choice?
what helps you escape?
One day you’ll have to face whatever it is you’re running from on your own
There won’t always be a hero wearing a cape
I’m almost certain that the “Good Woman” “Good Man” discussion has been going on for years
The internet gives it a chance to spread faster
I don’t believe there’s a right or wrong
What I do know is that as a people, we’ve always had to be strong
Back in the day, Daddy left for work while mommy stayed and made a home
Often having to cook, clean and nurture and do all the things alone
But she never had to work
Never had to worry about getting mud or sweat on her shirt
She was a soft place to rest
Sometimes she was the only place where both baby and daddy found comfort in her breast
But at some point that all changed
Mama got the right to work and put some extra letters behind her name
While daddy did the same
Here I am at 40, capable of more than most
I’m well educated about nerdy shit like HTML, SEO, and managed web host
I can also cook and clean
I can be soft and gentle
and on my worst days quite mean
But overall my soul is tired
Telling myself who I should be
When deep down in my core…
I just want to be free
Free to fix whatever is broken in my home
Free to enjoy a quiet, bubble bath for longer than 5 minutes alone
Free to be as masculine or feminine as I need to be
Free from my daily bouts of frustration and anxiety
You’ll drive yourself crazy if you try to change to fit someone else’s definition of who you are
Your best bet is to get still so you can take action
Being able to listen to your intuition will take you far
You know who you are
even if others can’t see
You have the power to think, do, and be whomever you choose to be
Peace! I’m Olivia!
I am a poet, accessory designer, artist…
In a nutshell, I am a creator.
I love working with my hands.
I love to create solutions. I love to create happy moments. I love to live and feel alive. I love to encourage others to feel alive…. I love to encourage others to be themselves..their authentic selves. My mission in life is to be a better me than I was the day before.
