I’m almost certain that the “Good Woman” “Good Man” discussion has been going on for years
The internet gives it a chance to spread faster
I don’t believe there’s a right or wrong
What I do know is that as a people, we’ve always had to be strong
Back in the day, Daddy left for work while mommy stayed and made a home
Often having to cook, clean and nurture and do all the things alone
But she never had to work
Never had to worry about getting mud or sweat on her shirt
She was a soft place to rest
Sometimes she was the only place where both baby and daddy found comfort in her breast
But at some point that all changed
Mama got the right to work and put some extra letters behind her name
While daddy did the same
Here I am at 40, capable of more than most
I’m well educated about nerdy shit like HTML, SEO, and managed web host
I can also cook and clean
I can be soft and gentle
and on my worst days quite mean
But overall my soul is tired
Telling myself who I should be
When deep down in my core…
I just want to be free
Free to fix whatever is broken in my home
Free to enjoy a quiet, bubble bath for longer than 5 minutes alone
Free to be as masculine or feminine as I need to be
Free from my daily bouts of frustration and anxiety
You’ll drive yourself crazy if you try to change to fit someone else’s definition of who you are
Your best bet is to get still so you can take action
Being able to listen to your intuition will take you far
You know who you are
even if others can’t see
You have the power to think, do, and be whomever you choose to be
